You do know a widow is a woman whose husband died.
My favorite is, you’re too young to be a widow.
- Yep. Because people don’t die young.
You don’t look like a widow.
- I will give them this one. When I was growing up my grandma and her friends talked about the Widow Simpson. She was the lady that lived in the house that all the kids were scared of. That was my idea of a widow for a very long time. My dad died when I was 14. My mom was 42 and I never thought of her as a widow.
I became a widow at the age of 32. This has been one of the toughest things I have ever had to go through. So acting like I don’t know what I am talking about only makes it harder on me, and my kids, but also makes you look like an idiot.
Try thinking of all the other things you could say instead. Like. Oh I’m so sorry. or That’s too bad. You poor thing. Pretty much anything than questioning if I know what I’m talking about.