At some point we’ve all had that moment when we cringe when a friend of ours joins a new direct sales company.
Even I have had that moment at least once and I am in direct sales. When my friend announces that she’s joined a new or another company, I brace myself. For the text messages. The messages on Facebook. The phone call.
I want to be happy for my friend, but its hard for me when I know they are hurting their businesses. I’ve tried talking to friends, and this turns into them accusing me of being afraid they will steal my customers, or I can’t stand to see them succeed.
That couldn’t be farther from the truth.
I have been in direct sales and on social media long enough to see just how bad this practice is. When your mom group is full of people complaining that a friend of theirs joined another direct sales and they are ready to unfriend and block her from contacting them.
This one post gets hundreds of comments of people feeling the same way. And them sharing their experience with the cold messages.
People tired of the cold messages. People feeling like their friends only see them as a sale. People upset that this friend hasn’t talked to them in months or years but have no problem sending them a message asking them to buy from them.
Too many companies train with the FRANK list. Friends. Relatives. Acquaintances. Neighbors. Kids.
With this list you write down the name of every woman (and in some businesses even men) you know. Even women you’ve maybe talked to one time 3 years ago. Or that one mom from your child’s class that is only seen at the Christmas play. You don’t know here, but you had better mad rush her as soon as the play is over to give her your sales pitch and beg her to host a party or buy from you.
The FRANK list might have worked once upon a time, but now, its become annoying. Annoying for your friends. And family. And annoying for those people you don’t know and wouldn’t talk to any other time.
No doesn’t mean no. It means not right now. Reach for 100 nos.
One company I was with, we were supposed to message people once a week. 10 messages a day, message again after 7 days. Don’t take no for an answer.
We were also trained to find a post in our newsfeed and message everyone that liked it or commented on it. Message random people just because they liked something a friend of theirs posted.
I couldn’t bring myself to do any of that.
Some companies even add insults into these messages. Some ladies try to camouflage the insults like “lets enhance your natural beauty” and others just go for the jugular. “It looks like you’ve gained some weight since your profile picture was taken. Let me help you lose it.”
Then there’s the cold messages because someone posted about money troubles. “Hey I saw you’re having money troubles. You need to join my team. And be your own boss!”
Yes, you have to spend money to make money, but you have to be able to afford it. I’ve seen screenshots where a lady was trying to get a woman to sign up with her team, and even told the woman that her and her kids eating Ramen for a month wouldn’t kill them.
I’ve seen posts from ladies complaining that the #1 reason that people don’t want to join their company is because the sign up cost. That they don’t understand how someone can’t afford $100 to change their lives.
I was one of those people. I couldn’t afford to buy a product let alone spend $100 on a kit. I joined my first company when they had free sign ups, and was able to use that to move on to different companies. But there was a time I had to choose between what bills were going to be paid what month. I couldn’t afford to pay them all in the same month.
People are in such a hurry to make a buck that they choose to use anything as a sales pitch. Instead of taking a minute to think about what the person is going through, they use it to try to make a buck.
I have posted about my PTSD and instantly I’ve gotten messages about this amazing product that will make my PTSD go away. Sweetie, my PTSD is caused from my husband dying, my having to take him off life support, and now the similarities between everything he went through and now what my fiance is going through. Pretty sure your pink drink isn’t going to help.
With Billy in the hospital this past week due to kidney failure, I had many people, including a few close friends, send me messages about their products. Their CBD oil will work better than anything the doctor can prescribe us. The amazing pink drink is all he needs. His kidneys will be back to normal in no time. Or the fruits and veggies in a pill. Amazing and are the only pills he will ever need.
Seriously. And the sad thing is, a lot of these people buy into everything they are being trained. Many of them are making illegal claims to make a few bucks. Eventually will make these claims to someone who truly believes it.
I don’t buy into this and I have talked to my doctors about all of these products. I’ve done my research, read the “clinical” studies that the companies post. No where has it ever said it could help someone walk again after strokes. Or cure lupus. Or fibromyalgia. Or any other autoimmune disease.
I do report each and every one of these to claims their companies. Some companies are great about stepping up and will apologize, but sadly, not all of them do.
Most companies, consultants are making around $5 give or take. So many people are willing to throw away their relationships with friends and family to make $5.
Who are you going to sell to when you’ve forced everyone on your friends list to block you?